The Danger of Division - Resolving Marital Conflict Biblically

When a man and woman prepares for marriage, there is often an unrealistic understanding of what it really means to say “I do!” Most couples are enthralled with each other, and they do not see a single thing wrong in the other person. At least, they chose to be blind to reality. When the bank accounts are separated, bills are separated, time together is separated, friends are separated, etc, there is a lot of space to hide things from each other that you do not want the other to see. For example, bad breath. There is not a single person whose breath is always fresh and clean. When courting or dating, you can brush your teeth before, keep gum or breath mints available throughout the evening, and have your bad breath camouflaged. When a couple actually prepares for a wedding day, one person once told me that there are 6 people who show up at the wedding altar—1) the person he thinks she is 2) the person she thinks she is 3) the person she is 4) the person he thinks he is 5) the person she thinks he is 6) the person he is. When these two people are joined together in holy matrimony, this is a beautiful picture of union. Matthew 19:6 says, “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Now, one of the most important things before marriage to establish is the fact that no matter what happens, we are going to work through whatever comes our way. There is danger in division and conflict in marriage must be handled biblically in order to please God.