Speak II: The Process of Speaking the Truth in Love

Biblical confrontation must start with the right goals after we have prepared our hearts. He notes that it is important to keep in the fore that we all need loving, honest rebuke because of wrong and unbiblical thinking (Num 11, Ps 73), emotional thinking, or that our view of life (God, self, others, the solution) tends to be shaped by our experiences. Our rebuke can only be equal to these challenges if we keep two goals in mind: (1) we must desire to be used as one of God's instruments of seeing in the lives of others and not trying to advance our opinions but helping others to see themselves in the mirror of God's Word; (2) we must desire to be used by God as an agent of repentance. We want a change of heart that results in a change in the direction of others' lives through the working of the Spirit by the Word.